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How to fix the fact that I cheated on my boyfriend
January 2, 2014
4:11 pm
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yari
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I been with my boyfriend for about a year now.. In the beginning he was pushy and always wanted me around, now since I messed up twice, oce in the beginning maybe 3 months in and again maybe 2 weeks ago. He can't get over it, I been trying so hard I've cried and  hanged everything I blocked myself from social networks and don't go out of my house, what else can I do. The trust from him to me isn't there, he has also done his dirt where I've caught him texting other girls but I got over it fast. Throughout the relationship it seems as if me and him both got comfortable with eachother, now that I've done the last of the tick for tack he seems to throw it to my face every chance he gets and he states that he doesn't know how to show emotion any more towards but and yet two days ago we talked and he said he wanted to rebuild the relationship with me. I'm confused and hurt and wondering what else to do. I want to be with him we were planning on marriage he still talks about it but then again he'll throw what I've done to him in my face. What to do?

January 3, 2014
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I am really sorry that all this happened.  Now having said that, once you cheat or someone cheats on you by having sex with another person, the damage is done & it's rarely something that can be repaired.  It happened.  It usually always gets found out & even if you were upfront about it & even if he was upfront about it, it's done.

Maybe you could one day in the future be platonic friends.

What you & him should do is learn a very important life lesson about respect in relationships.  When you love the person you are with, you do not cheat on them, the end.

If you or him cheated because the love or attraction was no longer there, then the very right thing to have done, would have been to end your relationship prior to cheating.

 

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January 3, 2014
12:49 pm
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You can't undo what you did. What you can do is acknowledge the fact that you are not monogamous and understand that marriage is for people who are. I have a feeling that in the very near future the sister wives arrangement will soon be legal and you can find yourself in a polygamous marriage that fits your life style. I don't think that there is anything wrong with having sex with multiple partners, but the part about leading someone to believe you are monogamous is. If your BF wants to stay in a realtionship with you then he needs to understand the fact that you crush random and that leads you to having sex with other men. If you expect him to be monogamous then that would make you a hippocrite. People who love everyone love no one & need to admit that they have a problem then be willing to seek out professional help. With adolescents counseling is based on teaching them to have boundaries and respect for their bodies and the bodies and feelings of others. Recognizing the fact you need to fix yourself is the first step. Hope to hear back on your progress.

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