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How not to lose a girl
December 21, 2011
2:21 pm
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I need some advice, I thought I could do this myself but I clearly keep getting in wrong and I feel my life is slipping away for me, and this maybe my last chance if it isn't to late already.
18 months ago my best friend of 5 years told me she loved me, and the next 6 months were perfect, we were totally in love. but then when things wasn't going as fast as I liked I started to mess her around, I started to pull away and be distane myself. I even said very hurtfull things. Then we would patch it up, and after a few weeks i would do the same. After 10 months of this she finally said enough is enough.
It has now been another 2 months and when I look back I see all the things I did wrong, I wanted her to fill the missing gap in my life i just kept pushing her to move in, and acted up when i didnt get what a wanted. I am still in love with her and I now know I will wait as long as it takes, I don't want her to fit in to my life I want to build a new life with her. She doesn't want to hear any of this, and says we will never happen and we should just be friends.
We have started to text a lot in the last couple of weeks, 30+ times a day and the odd phone call. But if i mention anything about us I don't hear from her again for a day or two. I don't know how to proceed, is she just trying to be friends or does she want more? Should I keep telling her how I feel? Or should I just back off? I really really don't want to lose her, it's also messing up the rest of my life I don't do anything anymore, just sit with my phone hoping she texts. At first I texted every two mintues but now only when she texts or I have something interesting to say. How can I get her back? This has been going on for 12 months now I believe if I would have acted better 12 months ago we would be together now, but then 12 months seemed like a life time, I want to ask her out, but don't want to be pushly I also don't want her to think I don't want to ask her out. What do I do next?

May 30, 2012
3:54 am
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Regret always comes last. But things will get better as long you realized that what you did was wrong and you're willing to put back everything in place. One good advice would be a very sincere apology. Mean it and say sorry as that will lead her that you admitted your mistakes in the past and probably it can give her an idea that you are asking for a second chance in your relationship. This time, don't mess up that second chance. Try to be more mature on your behavior and act manly. Yes, be a man. If you think that your love for her is true enough then fight for it. Always listen to her side and respect whatever decision she may have. If you really love her, you've got to set her free and if she returns in time, you know she's yours. Alright?

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