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heyyy.{intro(1st post ever!!) + bf problem o.O}
October 23, 2012
1:23 pm
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Annonymous666
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hey everybody,

  so like im new here and this is my 1st post. So if all goes well you should be seeing many post by me under here, Suicide, mental health, etc xDDD

Mk... know my issue....

    Okay so like i met my boyfriend on the 1st day of highskool. We chilled everyday. We flirted... n he asked me out but i couldnt say yes cuz i was to afraid. In all my history i am the one to get hurt... to get cheated on or played or be that stupid toy...  I havent had a boyfriend since 4 years!!!! (im a senior). My friend convinced me to give him a chance. It was worth it... but like... me myself... i got so hurt n so betrayed by guys i truley care about... i was afraid... So i broked up with him a week later... i went insane. We got back together the next day... and it was hell after that... well for him... I suffer from Borderline Personality Disorrder. So it really fucked us up... i truely care about him and love him but i kept on hurting him... I cheated on him once(a guy kissed me and i didnt pull back right away), and i keept breaking up with him and getting back together..

    He thinks im just playing with his emotions... he thinks im using him as a toy.... Im getting help. my BPD is in check... im in check. Im better and i love him and i havent done anything to huirt him... hes been the one to hurt me lately... taking us on and off breaks... being mean, playing sick jokes, finally breaking up with me on friday...

     I wanna et back together... he knows it.. we talked bout it... hes unsure... he says he loves me but hes afraid of getting hurt again... How do i prove it wont be like b4?

   N i know iknow i should just drop it... but i cant soooo

HELP?!!! Por favor *^*Confused

October 23, 2012
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As you said, you're getting help for your BPD and that is the best thing for now. The only way you can reassure him is your willingness to recover fully for your disorder. It might be best to set aside first your personal feelings and give yourself more time and space to cope up with your condition. If that guy truly loves you, he will accept and support you no matter what.

 

Wishing you well.

October 25, 2012
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dop
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 Not being in a
relationship isn’t the end of the world. Try slowing it down with this guy. The
relationship is all over the place right now. It’s probably indicative of your
BPD. You asked how I can prove it won’t be like before. Only your words backed
by your actions can prove this. You will have to show consistency over a period
of time to prove yourself. So will he. Relationships are built on trust. If
he’s, as you said being mean and playing sick jokes on you are you sure he’s
right for you. With your BPD this can be quite a roller coaster of emotions for
you but it sounds like your handling the situation quite well.  Bottom line, take care of yourself and make
decisions that are in your best interest. I can tell you this won’t be the last
guy you meet you have a long life ahead of you.

October 25, 2012
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Doplar, that was very well said.

 

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