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A relationship i knew was a bad idea buy i love her.
July 24, 2015
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I met someone that I found to be amazing. We have many of the same personality traits and we are both weird the same way. I love this girl with all my heart. I am the definition of a nice guy and I don't think she knows how to deal with someone like me.

Now for the part that makes me feel like it was never going to work. She is still married, yes her husband knows about me. Her reason for still being married is financially it costs money. She said she married him to help him get into the US, even though he had family here that could have helped him. I lived there for almost 2 months in his house. We got along somewhat. They always argue, she vents to me constantly about how he lies about stupid things. He brings girls over and we leave while he does what he has to do.

My issue is this. I am not the arguementative type, and when she wants to argue I just stay quiet, but eventually I get defencive and she cowers down. She will not argue with me face to face, she waits for me to leave and calls me. She said she can't bring herself to argue with me face to face. Our arguements always start with her mistrust. If she calls and my signal is bad she thinks I'm avoiding her. Her husband ignores her calls constantly. I constantly get accused of things I didn't do. We do have different perspectives on many things. Our last arguement broke us up because I was deeply hurt by what she said. She said " YOU chose to have a relationship with me knowing I'm broken, I won't change!" I thought our relationship was mutual but apparently I forced her into it by how she sees it. In the beginning she told me she wanted to change. I fear she will never change as long as she stays by the man whom created this distrust and anger in her. She has a heart of gold, her decisions where forced into her. Her pareants forced her career path. Her husband made her move here, she said he mad ethem get married to him when they where broke up. Im at a point that I feel maybe his compulsive lying has even took root in her. I'm at a loss. I don't want to loose her but I can't let her constantly hurt me like this. The path she is on is going to bea hard one. I've done everything to help her trust me, like moving into his house with her so she knows I'm not cheating on her, even though it made me feel extremely uncomfortable. I answer all her calls and if I miss one I'll call it back just as soon as I see it. I feel I don't have enough of what she needs. She's an amazing woman, and I know if she trusts me and can talk to me calmly without raising her voice we would be together for the duration of our lives, but I am unable to live with distrust forever. I guess what I'm looking for is some sort of direction. Any advice would be great. Thanks.

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