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Alcoholism
January 14, 2011
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I do not think I have a problem with drinking although I worry if I drink I will. I currently have a drink once a month or so. The reason I worry about being addicted is because of my parents. They both had a problem with drinking and drugs. I wish I could just have a drink and call it a day without feeling guilty. I don't drink to get drunk. I drink to have one with my girlfriend or just a drink for myself. The most I drink is 3 in a night. Then I stop. Is it valid for me to worry about being addicted?

January 15, 2011
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I worry about the same thing, Billy.  My father believed he had a problem and so in 1990 he quit.  My brother DEFINITELY has a problem.  Like so many other ladies these days, I like my wine...but some nights, I'll drink a whole bottle alone, and I feel like that's not normal.  It's not that I CAN'T stop, though...it's more like I'm choosing to pour that next glass.  And if I don't feel I should drink on a given night or week or whatever, I don't.  It's more similar to a "dieting" type struggle than an "addiction" type thing.  Like when I used to smoke cigarettes, I did NOT feel like I was making a conscious choice to light up sometimes, it was more like the addiction was guiding me.

Hope I make sense and that what I have to say helps you some...

January 17, 2011
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I think that given the fact that you have family members who have problems with both alcoholism and addiction, that it is healthy to think this way.  You cannot be too careful, and most addicts become so because they thought it could never happen to them.

 

Remember that moderation is key.  If you cannot stop when you know you should, then you have a problem.  When you want to drink more than you like, then there is a problem.  If you find yourself skipping work or classes because you want to spend the day drinking, or is very plastered to get out of bed, then there is a problem.

 

I would suggest knowing the signs of alcoholism so that you can tell if you have a problem and correct it immediately!

January 17, 2011
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I do know that there are four questions you need to ask yourself to see if you have a drinking problem. 

  • Do you think you're drinking too much?  Or do you think you should cut down?
  • Do you have feelings of guilt about the way you're drinking?
  • Do people question or criticize your drinking?
  • Do you feel the need to drink in order to start the day right?  Do you drink first thing in the morning?
January 18, 2011
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Billy - it seems to me that you are highly aware of the problems related to alcohol and drugs and that as a result you are a very moderate user. From what you say you drink you do not have a drink problem. Your associated guilt is connected to what you have observed as a younger person. There is nothing wrong with drinking alcohol - especially at the level you are drinking. You sound like a healthy drinker with a very heightened awareness - the problem you need to tackle is that feeling of guilt.

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January 19, 2011
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iphone4 said:

I do know that there are four questions you need to ask yourself to see if you have a drinking problem. 

  • Do you think you're drinking too much?  Or do you think you should cut down?
  • Do you have feelings of guilt about the way you're drinking?
  • Do people question or criticize your drinking?
  • Do you feel the need to drink in order to start the day right?  Do you drink first thing in the morning?

On top of these, you also need to be honest with yourself.  There are more specific signs that you are an alcoholic, if you:
  1. Can't stop once you start drinking.  
  2. Crave for alcohol.
  3. Have physical symptoms such as being nauseous, shaky, sweaty and anxious.  These usually go away if you drink
  4. Drink a lot before getting drunk.
January 19, 2011
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My rule has always been simple: if you think you have a problem, then you may have a problem. It's better to see a counselor and be told that you don't have a problem, than brush it aside! Remember that there are currently 14 million alcoholics in the U.S. alone... that translates to 1 in every 13 adults!

January 19, 2011
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Remember that it's not your fault that you are an alcoholic. Don't be embarrassed to seek out professional help if you think you have a problem!

January 23, 2011
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I worry about my children because Alcoholism runs rampad on their father's side. He was someone who drank constantly and would get up from a drunk and start all over. As someone said you are a moderate drinker and I am going to say you are NOT an alcoholic. In my opinion an alcoholic is someone who has to have a drink and pretty much lets the alcohol run their lives.

January 25, 2011
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BabblingIdiot said:

I worry about my children because Alcoholism runs rampad on their father's side. He was someone who drank constantly and would get up from a drunk and start all over. As someone said you are a moderate drinker and I am going to say you are NOT an alcoholic. In my opinion an alcoholic is someone who has to have a drink and pretty much lets the alcohol run their lives.


And that is a very important distinction between just a drink and a drinking problem.  If you find that you are not able to function well in other areas of your life, then there's a problem.  If your work or school activities are affected because of your drinking, then there is a problem.
January 25, 2011
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Thank you all for your responses.

 

I guess I don't have the problem. The thought of the problem worries me. I don't have time to drink in my crazy life. There are times I want one, but being a single dad to my kids, well they come first. I will not let my ex wife take them for a night until she gets her stuff together so there is no time to really drink. I have to always be "ok" incase something happens with them. Which is ok. That is what being a dad is.

 

Thanks again.

February 14, 2011
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Answer these questions honestly for yourself:

1. Do you require a drink the next morning? 
 

2. Do you prefer to drink alone?
 

3. Do you lose time from work do to drinking?
 

4. Is drinking harming your family in any way?
 

5. Do you have a drink at a definite time each day?
 

6. Do you get the inner shakes unless you continue drinking?
 

7. Has drinking made you irritable?
 

8. Does drinking make you careless of your family's welfare?
 

9. Have you thought less of your spouse since drinking?
 

10. Has drinking changed your personality?
 

11. Does drinking cause you bodily complaints?
 

12. Does drinking make you restless?
 

13. Does drinking cause you to have difficulty sleeping?
 

14. Has drinking made you more impulsive?
 

15. Have you less self control since drinking?
 

16. Has your initiative decreased since drinking?
 

17. Has your ambition decreased since drinking?
 

18. Do you lack perseverance in pursuing a goal since drinking?
 

19. Do you drink to obtain social ease?
 

20. Do you drink for self-encouragement?
 

21. Do you drink to relieve feelings of inadequacy?
 

22. Has your sex drive suffered since drinking?
 

23. Do you show marked dislikes and hatreds since drinking?
 

24. Has your jealousy increased since drinking?
 

25. Do you show moodiness as a result of your drinking?
 

26. Has your efficiency decreased since drinking?
 

27. Has drinking made you more sensitive?
 

28. Are you hard to get along with since drinking?
 

29. Do you turn to an inferior environment since drinking?
 

30. Is drinking endangering your health?
 

31. Is drinking affecting your peace of mind?
 

32. Is drinking making your home life unhappy?
 

33. Is drinking jeopardizing your business or job?
 

34. Is drinking clouding your reputation?
 

35. Is drinking disturbing the harmony of your life?
 

36. Have you ever had a loss of memory(blackout) while or after drinking?
 

37. Have you ever felt an inability to concentrate while or after drinking?
 

38. Have you ever felt "remorse" after drinking?
 

39. Has a physician ever treated you for drinking?
 

40. Have you ever been hospitalized for drinking?
 

If you have answered YES to any one of the Test Questions, there is a definite warning that you may be an alcoholic.

If you answered YES to any two of the Test Questions, the chances are that you are an alcoholic.

If you answered YES to three or more of the Test Questions, you are definitely an alcoholic

April 22, 2011
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Billy99 said:

I do not think I have a problem with drinking although I worry if I drink I will. I currently have a drink once a month or so. The reason I worry about being addicted is because of my parents. They both had a problem with drinking and drugs. I wish I could just have a drink and call it a day without feeling guilty. I don't drink to get drunk. I drink to have one with my girlfriend or just a drink for myself. The most I drink is 3 in a night. Then I stop. Is it valid for me to worry about being addicted?


Definitely you should worry about your addiction.Drinking once in a month is not so bad but drinking on regular basis may make you addict or may harm your health very badly.So think before you drink.
March 21, 2013
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Alcoholism is inability to stop drinking. It is accompanied by a physical dependence (meaning that the person experiences withdrawal symptoms when not drinking) and an increased tolerance for alcohol (meaning the person needs to drink greater amounts). Before entering recovery, most alcoholics will deny they have a problem. People who abuse alcohol but are not dependent on it may have similar symptoms, but they don' t feel the same craving to drink and usually don' t experience withdrawal symptoms.

March 21, 2013
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Thank you Aaron for clearing that up in reference to the substance that is created from potatoes, grapes, berries, etc all fermented into a potion with different colours & then hops & wheat for the beer.  All part of nature in a sense.  We toast at holiday's, over prayers & blessings, weddings, New Year's Eve & for some families all over Europe wine is part of the meal or prepared into a dish.  Once again people, it's not the fault of the substance, nor the fault of the substance abuser.  If you abuse anything:

1. be aware that you are not using the treat as a treat, but as a way to cope through some problem.

2. Admit this #1 above to yourself & to another human being that can help you get the help you need.

3. Understand that your abuse of whatever substance or your addiction to lets say gambling etc., is not a reason to dislike yourself.  A problem is an opportunity to grow as a person.

4. Prepare to be prepared to be totally honest with first yourself and then with those who are willing to help you through it.

5. Do not isolate, help is out there & the answer to your problem is within you.  You did not get that way in one day.  It will take time.  It will take energy, it will take a concerted effort on your part every single day.

6. You do not have to be perfect, you just have to have the willingness to change the way you cope with your problems.

7. Prayer helps.  Believe in something greater than yourself or another human.  It does not matter in what you believe, so long as you believe.

 

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June 18, 2013
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Seeing your parents as addicts,and you being worried about becoming one,is a healthy thought..Am sure you would not get addicted,as you very well know the negative effects..Also drinking once a month would not make you an addict..But it's advisable to try and avoid drinking,and try taking up a hobby or activity of interest..

July 18, 2013
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It is sometime said that addiction problem runs in a family......i mean from hereditary point of view, but you are not drinking that much to feel such thing at your end, you already seems to be alarmed with your parents case, so don't feel embarassed with unnecessary question about your well being. Till the time your not divulging yourself into too much drinking or drug addition, you should be worried free. Incase you feel, as if you are getting into addiction path, without wasting a single moment get in touch with us as you can check our work detail in http://www.orangecountydetox.com/.

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Treatment for alcoholism can begin only when the alcoholic accepts that the problem exists and agrees to stop drinking. He or she must understand that alcoholism is curable and must be motivated to change. Treatment has three stages: Detoxification (detox): This may be needed immediately after discontinuing alcohol use and can be a medical emergency, as detox can result in withdrawal seizures, hallucinations, delirium tremens (DT), and in some cases may result in death. Rehabilitation: This involves counseling and medications to give the recovering alcoholic the skills needed for maintaining sobriety. This step in treatment can be done inpatient or outpatient. Both are equally effective.Maintenance of sobriety: This step's success requires an alcoholic to be self-driven. The key to maintenance is support, which often includes regular Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meetings and getting a sponsor.

May 18, 2014
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From reading the tirade of posts to Billy, I think that his awarness & what he shares about his drinking habiits make him able to not let his drinking once in a while interfere with his life & that for now, he does have a measure of control over his drinking.  It would be wise for Billy to continually keep his keen awareness as he comes from a family who he has told us became addicted to alcohol.  There is no cure for alcolholism.  There are however many programs to help alcoholics if and when they are ready to address their problem.

 

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September 26, 2014
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Do not worry too much, As long as you can aware and have control you will not be addicted.

October 26, 2014
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There are however many programs to help alcoholics .  i hope Do not worry too much, As long as you can aware and have control you will not be addicted.

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Dr. Basim Elhabashy said:

There are however many programs to help alcoholics .  i hope Do not worry too much, As long as you can aware and have control you will not be addicted.

verry well said.

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Even though it's not often, alcohol will be an alcohol. It will slowly affect your health, and maybe you'll get addicted to it without even knowing.

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You have mentioned that your parents have problem with addiction and alcoholism, so it is obvious that you are thinking in that way of addiction. But sometimes more you think about avoid it, more you will get close to that. So it is better to stop at the right time. I know it is difficult to stop it suddenly but you have to do it before the things get worst.

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