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Abuse and Alcoholism
January 23, 2011
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My ex-husband was and is an alcoholic. He was verbally and physically abusive to me. It got to the point that he would hurt me in front of our children. I often wonder if these two things go hand in hand since I have heard other wives and even husbands going through this. What do you think?

January 24, 2011
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I think abuse and alcoholism are very correlated. When I used to drink heavily, sometimes my wife would tell me the next day that I was really verbally mean to her, and I couldn't believe it. I usually didn't even remember what she was talking about. Drinking too much can really change a person, and it seems to bring out anger and violence in some people.

January 25, 2011
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Tommy45 said:

I think abuse and alcoholism are very correlated. When I used to drink heavily, sometimes my wife would tell me the next day that I was really verbally mean to her, and I couldn't believe it. I usually didn't even remember what she was talking about. Drinking too much can really change a person, and it seems to bring out anger and violence in some people.


It is correlated but it is not causal.  Alcohol doesn't cause abuse and abuse doesn't cause you to drink alcohol.  However, it is very possible to think that someone who drinks problematically might suffer from other impulse control behaviors or other conditions.  Therefore, while they do not necessarily go hand in hand, they are often found together.

Just think, not all abusers are alcoholics and not all alcoholics feel the need to abuse other people.

July 21, 2013
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Physical abuse goes hand in hand with alcoholism, Since most of the alcoholics are said to be a wife beater. You should have taken the initiave earlier & should have visited the nearest rehab center with your ex. for better conseling. Anyhow things have gone by for you, but others who are still suffering with this truama would recommend them to visit nearest rehab center soonest for more information visit us on  orangecountydetox.com

July 22, 2013
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The Mother & the children can still go to  shelter or family if the Father refuses.

September 20, 2013
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I feel alcoholism and abuse are co-related at all times.It is seen that in most of the cases,the husbands who are heavy drinkers are also abusive in nature.It is their disturbed minds which leads them to alcohol  and it is this disturbed mind also makes them abusive.but i feel that you should do something about it as he cannot be,first,be abusive to his wife,and second never in front of his children.This is just not done.Take a few harsh decisions to make him feel that he cannot take u for granted.

October 10, 2013
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I think physical abuse in presence of children is certainly a very bad thing.i think it will create bad impression on childern mind.

September 8, 2014
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BabblingIdiot said:

My ex-husband was and is an alcoholic. He was verbally and physically abusive to me. It got to the point that he would hurt me in front of our children. I often wonder if these two things go hand in hand since I have heard other wives and even husbands going through this. What do you think?


First, I think you could make your children learn that your husband was physically ill for some reasons. Then, I think you could talk with him more personally than you do, I guess. As far as I know, alcoholic guys are a little rude or indifferent at times. However, it would not be righteous ot let him continue this habit anyway.
November 24, 2014
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There are times when you require therapeutic mind
expeditiously in spite of the fact that the condition itself is not life
debilitating.

January 4, 2015
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Being abusive (especially physically) is a bad thing even under the influence of alcohol, no excuses. He needs to go to rehab.

February 13, 2015
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Try to consult medical expert first, then procced by going to some AA meetings, if this not work, rehab is your next step.

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