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12:05 am August 28, 2009
| marypoppins
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A therapist told me, or maybe I read it, that we're as healthy as the people we're with.
I'd be concerned if the person I was with showed no remorse for hurting me, even if they hadn't intended to hurt me.
And after being treated with such little care, I think I'd probably regret crash dieting and making a trip to try and prove my worth.
But it's awfully difficult, when we come from the families we come from, to know what's healthy and what's not.
I'm friends with a guy now who I believe is healthier than men I've been involved with in the past. I like to believe I'm healthier, too. But I'm still making mistakes, still struggling with self-esteem, still unsure about what real intimacy is, fighting my jealousy, and so on. But it's progress, I tell myself.
Mary
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12:26 pm August 28, 2009
| Worried_Dad
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Hi marypoppins,
I appreciate your compassionate and wise and intimate response to my “problem.”
People make mistakes in relationships. We are only human after all.
I appreciate you concern about what sound like “crash diet.”
I am approaching it as a “polishing diet”
I have always been slim and athletic, but I just thought it would be fun to really put my science into it.
It turns out that my diet is nutritionally complete, and doesn’t make me feel hungry.
I think I may write a diet book. “Watch the pounds melt away while you pack on solid muscle with WD’s South Park Diet” or something.
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1:56 pm August 28, 2009
| Shonda
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South Park diet! oh how great is that? Week one. Chicken f***er, F*** chicken. LOL, you are brilliant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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2:48 am August 29, 2009
| andii
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"Anyone reading this thread can see who started the "verbal abuse" and it certainly wasn't me or Sleepless. "
Yes it was lollipop3. It was you. Now keep to word and leave him alone.
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2:54 am August 29, 2009
| andii
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Well it's Friday Night wd, you must be getting ready to go. I say: Just be yourself and let yourself find your way.
This shall be quite a journey.
I hope you will share it here.
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6:20 am August 29, 2009
| soofoo
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WD,
Yes, this is very high risk for you. Naturally your friends are going to say "don't do it!". But your friends don't know the connection you feel for this woman. I understand and respect your choice here, and I can see that your eyes are at least half-open about it.
What do you think about the flip-flop in gf's perception of the relationship?
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6:19 pm August 29, 2009
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Well, well, well! Doe mine ice desleeve me, as John Lennon once said – it's my old friend Sleepless! Hey, scouse mousie, nice to see your post. Ha ha, I can just hear that Liverpool tone in your message to the resident "Wizardly_Danglybits". And then, all the wailin' drama! All one can say is plus ca change, plus que c'est la meme chose…. n'est-ce pas?
I remember fondly what a great sleuth you always were, Ms. Sleepless… and I wonder if you are good at riddles too. Here's one for you: In what way is engaging with W(M)D like nuclear war?
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6:24 pm August 29, 2009
| sleepless in uk
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Ah… It's Kroik!!!!
How goes it my klever komrade?
Let's see….
I would say that engaging with WMD is like nuclear war because the only way to win with him is not to play????
Ah I have missed you
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8:11 am September 2, 2009
| Worried_Dad
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Hi soofoo,
Yes, it is very high risk emotionally, and three days into my visit it seems like I have made a gamble that is going to be very costly to me.
Her flip-flops?
Some people are constant in relationship, believe in working through difficulties. Other people are totally introverted and also fickle.
For all her warm language, I think she invited me out for three weeks so she could dump me.
Oh well, I knew that was a strong possibility.
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1:03 pm September 2, 2009
| StronginHim77
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Perhaps you could gather whatever remains of your self-esteem and elect to leave, before being "dumped?"
Just a thought.
- Ma Strong
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5:31 pm September 2, 2009
| Worried_Dad
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Hi StronginHim,
Well, if we have another bad day or so, I'll pay the $150 for itinerary change and vamoose. Thanks for your caring and reasonable advice.
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5:39 pm September 2, 2009
| Bitsy
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{{{{{worried dad}}}}}} Some of us have to learn the hard way. I always have ;)
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7:32 pm September 2, 2009
| soofoo
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((((((WD))))))
Now you can tell yourself in 100% honesty that you gave it your all and there was nothing more you could do. You are very brave to have done that.
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5:12 pm September 3, 2009
| glittered when he walked
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WD,
Sorry bud..I mean that.
In regard to your assessemnt about some people being constant and others being fickle…perhaps look at it another way?..there are those who are healthy for us…and those who are not.
This woman *seems* to me to be unhealthy for you. I echo strong's advice. why wait for another day? leave now. way i see it..if this woman is worthy of you she'll come to you…she's the one who f'd up.
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8:03 pm September 3, 2009
| andii
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It'll be okay wd. She's not supposed to be on your path in this life anymore.
Somebody else will be soon.
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2:10 pm September 19, 2009
| MsGuided
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2:18 pm September 19, 2009
| MsGuided
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I hope the hacker from this site is having fun…I got this thread immediately and i didn't even prompt it. I didn't even post or click on send reply for that empty window above!!LOL
I can't access anything else on AAC anymore and get some advert site in it's place.
Now i know what people mean by not feeling "safe". Could be here or someother issue on my puter.
Apologies for posting this on this thread, but this is the only window i have.
Oh the ironies.
More NS BS!!!
This may be G-Bye for a while. I just wanted the people who have supported me, been my friends here know why I may not be around.
Take Care. ;0)
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5:29 pm September 19, 2009
| Hepburn
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Hmmm, that is weird MsG.
Did you contact the SC? I'm not having difficulties, and I don't see other people posting difficulties.
It could be your computer. Seems like ever since your son was using it, things are not right with it.
This SUCKS! Can you at least post on this thread?
Hep
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1:25 pm September 20, 2009
| andii
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MSG:
Was it your computer or do you think somebody hacked into this site?
If somebody hacks into this site can they get our email address? I had to give it when I signed up for this site and I'm concerned that somebody can get it.
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9:22 am September 21, 2009
| MsGuided
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I don't really know how or why this has happened, but it's a bug of some sort, just a nuasance, NOT a serious virus that gets to my private info….Now I can only get on this thread! HOW WEIRD!
When i tried to block the site i was being re-directed to it didn't work.
Hep. I can't contact the SC because i can't get the link, can't acces any part of this site except this thread!! (?) It could be my sons activities from a few weeks ago. ( boy I could post on "teenager problems" now!LOL
Being on the internet has risks, anyone can get hacked or "bugged" from anywhere.
I'm not a techie so how do i know ?
Looks like i have to pay a techie to fix this.
All i can say is parents with kids, MAKE SURE you have a good anti-virus, firewall and anti-spyware program ( which i have) AND are the PC administrator, so your kids can't change the settings ( that's what My son did)
I'm not posting here after this.
I'll be back IF and when i get my PC back to normal.
The world does not make sense!ahahaha
;0)
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2:26 am November 19, 2011
| rohan5039
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so sorry to hear that, very heart touching story and I'm still thinking about it, because it is always left impressions on your life and very hardly effects man's mind. But its upto you that how you manages and planned for future best of luck.
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