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Husband has left and says he has shut me out

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3:47 am
August 10, 2012


jonellerc

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I am new to this and just got blindsided 2 weeks ago. My husband told me he has shut me out and is trying to let me back in but it is not working. He moved out 2 weeks ago and says he needed to see if he could miss me. Since he has said he hasn't missed me and has no desire to really call or talk to me. About 6 weeks ago I caught him having very frequent texts back and forth with a girl he works with he said they were just friends and that what he did was not right to hide it from me and he would cut off communication. As i tried to talk to him about this is when I noticed a difference in his personality he was always loving and caring and became so cold towards me. I find out 2 days before he moves out that he had downloaded a program to his phone to be able to text this girl without me knowing. When I approached him about it he again tells me they are just friends she lives with her boyfriend he has emotional feelings for her but she is with her boyfriend. Since moving out I try to communicate with him and he just gets angry and yells and tells me he is unhappy with me and says we argue to much and brings up fights from 10 months ago as to why he has shut me out. We have marriage counseling in 3 days but I don't know that he is going to even try and just let me go in there with hope and let me down. Any advice on what to make of this.

4:59 pm
August 13, 2012


dop

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Sorry to hear you are going through this. From what you have described I think there are communication issues in your marriage. I also think he was pursuing his co-worker and got caught up and distracted from his marital issues. Somewhere along the line that failed and you saw his frustration surface. That being said I believe it is up to him to owe you an explanation. I assume you probably went to counseling today and hopefully got some answers. Let us know how you are doing.

12:29 am
October 1, 2012


ShiningLight

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Doplar is right. You maybe having communication issues so it's just best to undergo and pursue that marriage counseling so the both of you can reconcile your relationship and figure out what has been lacking. It's nornal for him to get irritated if you have repeatedly asked him about having an affair with other woman but I guess it would not matter at all if he's really innocent that he isn't cheating on you right? Try to figure out what have caused him to behave that way before making any decisions. Your counselor will also give you proper advice and will just guide you on how to restore your relationship  as a couple but it's not a guarantee of everything, the decision is still up to you and your husband on how are you going to deal with your marriage issues.


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