Who can I trust? | General Support | Forum

Nada,

I am no therapist or professional anything but I don't think you are bitchy at all.  I think you are probably a very outgoing caring person who likely tells people much more than they need to know about your personal life.  In a perfect world, and if people were as caring as you, they would appreciate your honesty or kindly tell you that they do not want to participate in listening,end of story.  I think people in general are not trusting, not so much the eay you might be.  The trust issues are likely theirs, not yours.  What often happens is they may open up to you and then feel threatned by what you know, thinking you are going to share their information with others to hurt them.  This is why is general, I don't open up to just anyone and I need to really get to know someone before I would tell my very personal information.  I am really sorry to have to admit to you that in my opinion, people abuse information and cross talk when it is not necessary.  It's gossip.  People thrive on it.  Their lives are that pathetic.  When you speak about your troubles here, I would hope that it is an anonymous forum and the goal is for others who may have had some experience with your troubles might be able to really give you candid advice, but eleswhere, particularly in a school or work enviornment, I think keeping your conversations light and friendly is the way to go.  Truthfully now, please consider that your thoughts do not belong to just anyone.  Be selective about with whom you give the honour of sharing your mind with.  People can be wonderful, people can be cruel.  Sometimes people hate the one person who is able to actually be upfront and honest because they really want to be like that person but they just can't.  I am sorry to tell you this, but I have found this to be the truth many times over.

IMHO I think it is best to ask someone first if they just want to share their story, and get support for their feelings or if they want advice before offering any. IMHO it's best that we focus on our own issues. Sorry to hear Oneday that you have had such negative experiences with people.

A while back the person running the site gave definitions of types of love.  I wonder if someone could explain the concept of trust to me and what its definition is?  Good Luck with that.  It's easy to say trust is earned, but think about what you are really saying.  It's wrong to say I never trust a stranger.  It depends on the circumstance of the encounter.

Nada Nada Nada.  Glad to know you feel you are not a mystery, since that is the name you gave yourself.

Sometimes you have to trust a stranger.  There are emergency situations when you need to blindly trust someone you might have just met.  Too bad, so sad.   The more strangers you meet, the easier it gets Nada, honestly.  You can trust me on that. 

Yes, in general you should be careful who you trust depending on the information you are trusting them with.  For example, should you trust that the bus driver will give you a transfer if you pay your fare and ask nicely? Forgive me if you don't understand ride a bus, but yes, you should trust that if you do the accepted proper thing, you will receive what you require to get to your destination.

 Should you trust the internet to be a secure site, especially a site where everyone in the free world can read your information?  Not so much…..  Would you hope that a life partner of lets say 15 years is someone that you could trust with very personal information?  You would think right?  Should that same partner share important issues with you and trust you with his/her most intimate thoughts and problems?  You would hope so.

 Do you dare Nada to enter into a perfect stranger's mind and offer them a piece of your love because it's worth trying to heal someone's pain if you had the gift to do that?  Without asking them for their personal sob story, without telling them yours? Just like that, Nada?

Could you trust someone online to stop laughing at your person long enough to try and understand that they are in pain?  Are you still a mystery to yourself or is it to others that you wish to remain a mystery????

Thanks for making feel so welcome.

Maybe you could go consult your team of experts now on how to answer me in the most disgusting way possible.  Open a book, find the answer.  Better still, come find me at night when I'm working in Psychiatric Ward trying to determine who is more insane.  Those on the inside or those on the outside?

Cheers.

Hope you figure it out

ONE DAY

you were the one that asked me to give you specific information.  Why did you want that then?  For gossip?  You said that you wanted to say something to me.  If that is co-dependent behaviour than why did you try to do it?  Now you throw it back in my face?  I don't think so.  When you make light of any person's pain and when you took away my chance to talk about things that hurt, that is not being co anything, its just rude.  Sure you are responsible, you wrote on a site things about me as if you knew me.  Who gives you the right?  You were the one that instigated about where I might work or not work.  You are rude.  Maybe you should bounce a little less.

I would not want to be near you if something horrible happened in my city and I had to depend on the kindness of people, but I promise you I would do anything and everything in my power to help people if I needed to.  Would I open the door to my house, hide them, feed them, keep them safe from harm?  Yes.  You call it anything you want.  You did make me feel unwelcome.  Too bad you could not say that you were sorry.  Keep hiding in your psycho-babble.

Go back and read your nasty.

Please stop giving me instructions.  Please stop.  If I promise not to write to you or post anything more to you, will you just stop already?  I would really rather not be writing with you.  I am sure there are plenty of other people you could be helpful to.  As of today and right now, I am asking that you refrain from sending me back posts.  Thank you & goodbye.