Should I call my friend? | General Support | Forum

Post edited 6:59 am – December 26, 2011 by Daenis

I am very worried about my friend. I haven't been able to talk to her for almost two years. She got very paranoid about the world and cut ties with our circle of friends that helped her after rehab. It was when she got engaged. She wouldn't tell any of us her fiancee's name, invite us to the wedding or anything. She started lashing out at all of us. Anyone that didn't agree with her. She always had to be right, and some times it got ugly if we didnt agree. Lots of hurtful name-calling. Her rage spilled over at times. I wondered if it was because she had started drinking again. She's an alcoholic… she maintained her sobriety for years. She used to preach at us and scold us for so much as talking about drinking in front of her. lol like all conversation should be for her. I heard that she got mad and popped someone and there were legal issues as a result of that. I just knew with the lashing out and physical fighting, she was drinking again.

I had a very disturbing dream about her a few nights ago. Holding her right side, crying, saying no liver no liver. I know this is going to sound terrible, but I was so worried about her I dogpiled her name. I found her married name because she has signed online guestbooks for some funeral homes, gave both maiden and married name. Her FB page is locked, but not his. I knew what he did for a living so I was able to find the new hubby on FB. It's just as I thought. He has pictures of her and of them drinking. In bars, at parties… there faces all shiny and puffy eyes squinting from drinking. you know? Drinkers think they look good in pictures, but they really look… well they look puffy and drunk and silly. It makes me so sad. She stayed sober for so long and even quit smoking. I wonder what happened, if it is to keep up with the new husbands lifestyle. To keep him. He makes a good living, and has a real nice big house on prime property. But how can she be happy if she's drinking and brawling again? Maybe she drinks because he does and they dont have much else in common. How uncomfortable is it to lie to yourself? (I can handle drinking some times) (I can handle a couple of beers once in a while) She turned herself into a blonde, instead of the brunette she always was. I know she's trying to be someone else…. Blingy boozy, blonde bride. I'd like to offer my love and help, but I'm hesitant to because she gets so nasty when she's defensive. lol like drop and roll. Do you think now that I have her #, I should call her? Reach out to her?