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5:42 pm
May 9, 2005


bel

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posts 15

I just wanted to say that on Mothers Day I had a great time at my sisters house as the whole family was invited over for potluck. While there I was enjoying myself, stuffing myself on ribs, rice, patato salad, cake, you name it and it was there.

My son chose not to go to the get together as he hardley ever joins in on family funtions.

When I headed home a deep depression hit me, my son had mentioned to me last weekend that he was going to take me to Montery by the beach for clam chowder for mothers day. Then he told me he could not take me after as he didnt have much money but that he would buy me a gift. But Mothers Day came and no Happy Mothers Day from son, no hug, no card, nothing.

I went home, straight to my room and went to bed crying. I know I should be used to his not getting me anything, he didnt get me anything for christmas, my birthday on jan 1st and now Mothers Day. I know he does not have to buy or do anything for me but I just figured since he is now working he might think differently but nope, nothing nada, a hug would have been nice.

I hope to stop feeling sorry for myself soon as this depression is effecting me at work and at home.

thanks if anyone read this.

Bel

5:50 pm
May 9, 2005


gingerleigh

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posts -1

Hi Bel. I'm sorry that you're feeling so low and that your son doesn't seem to understand that he needs to show you that he loves you as his mom. It's not you, it's his lack of common sense or lack of empathy.

5:52 pm
May 9, 2005


site coordinator

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posts -1

((((((bel)))))))

that's a real hug.

It sounds like he really did have high hopes to give some love back to you… maybe he feels inadequate? Too little too late kind of thing?

No matter what bel, you're awesome, and I could use a hug too if you don't mind.

6:05 pm
May 9, 2005


bel

Member

posts 15

Ginger thank you for your words and understanding how I am feeling.

Bel

6:06 pm
May 9, 2005


bel

Member

posts 15

(((((((((SC))))))))))))
Big hugs coming your way for all you do on this site and your kinds words.

I know it is nice to be recognized and I need to do alot of that myself.

Thank you
Bel

6:14 pm
May 9, 2005


Anonymous

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posts -1

Bel,

I'm sorry to hear this. The same thing happened to me. This is the first time that I have not heard from my daughters and it does hurt. I know how you feel. I got an online card from a dear friend which was very sweet, but I feel empty.

You are not alone.

((((Bel)))

Sunny

6:20 pm
May 9, 2005


bel

Member

posts 15

Sunnygirl, Im sorry you were overlooked as well for mothers day.

My mom did buy all her daughters a new blouse for mothers day and I did receive one and that was very nice.

I only have the one child my son so I guess I tend to depend on him maybe to much, dont really know. I would think they know how it is to be recognized for all they do and appreciate some kind words or a token of affection or appreciation.

I hope your feeling better and your daughters make up for it in some way.

(((((((Sunnygirl)))))))

7:04 pm
May 9, 2005


exoticflower

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Ladies, I'm so sorry for both of you. My own mother is gone, but I cringe to remember a few times that I let the holiday slip through my fingers. And she was hardly the great mom that you girls seem to be! I assure you SC is right, they do love you, despite the lack of appritiation where it is due, it is human nature to disapoint, and childrens nature to take their parents for granted.

7:14 pm
May 9, 2005


addicts wife

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I need to join the pity party for Mothers day.
Hubbys granfather passed away yesterday, and he used that as an excuse to go get drugs and disappear. all moms day stuff was cancelled because suddenly the loss of his moms father was all about him. and his addiction.I didnt get ot see my mom, His mom didnt get ot see her son, NOne of us got to see my step son, and he still is nowhere ot be found..almost 2 days later.
His parents flew to WV this morning to deal with th e funeral arrangements and all that you have to do for that.
I am sooo upset at how selfish and irresonsible he has become.And deeply deeply saddened and hurt by the loss of his grandfather ,and on top of it worryig bout where he could possibly be. I am alone here with the kitty, and feeling very scared, as I feel like i am mourning two people.
I am afraid of calling any friends because Im sure no one wants to hear about this anymore. His issues have (Im sure) made me a burden to them.

Hugs for everyone who posted here already. Im so sorry you are sad Bel. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))
AW

7:21 pm
May 9, 2005


Anonymous

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bel and exotic,

Thank you. I'm sure I will hear from mine. Both are grown and they have so many things going on in their lives, my oldest is in Oregon with my grandchildren and my youngest in TX, going to school, working and getting married soon. I take comfort knowing that yes, in spite they do love me. bel, I'm happy you could be with your Mom, wish I could have. This too shall pass right ladies?

((((((HUGS)))))

Sunny

7:41 pm
May 9, 2005


Anonymous

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((((((AW))))))

What a sad thing. I'm so sorry that this happened and hubby is off doing his thing. gosh, I really don't know what to say except I'm thinking of you. You deserve so much more.

Sunny

10:55 pm
May 9, 2005


tooscared

Member

posts 21

Hugs from me too Bel. ((((((Bel)))))

I know you are such a giver in your family. You are so generous in opening up your home to share with your son and his family. You help with the grandkids and run them places. A kind word or a little appreciation would go a long ways. I am sorry that you were so sad yesterday. Sometimes holidays just make situations more hurtful.

You are a beautiful person Bel – you have a beautiful heart and I know you love your son very much. Not much I can say to make your hurt go away, but I do care.

I am also sorry for those of you who were feeling so alone and hurt yesterday – Sunny, Exoticflower, and AW. It seems like this world we live is makes people so busy that they forget what is really important in their lives. Hugs to you all (Bel, AW, Exoticflower, and Sunny) and I hope you have a better week.

Love, TS

11:07 pm
May 9, 2005


Anonymous

New Member

posts -1

TS; Thank you!
I am going to start a new thread for all of us, that are alone and hurting.. I hope I can.. Kinda scared right now. I thank you for your words and hugs!! It is very comforting to know that we do have caring souls here.And you have always been one.

Hugs,

Sunny

4:01 pm
May 10, 2005


bel

Member

posts 15

Update:

Son bought me a chair and ottoman for my bedroom for mother's day. It was a late gift but a very nice one. I am feeling much better today.

SC, you said: It sounds like he really did have high hopes to give some love back to you… maybe he feels inadequate? He did have high hopes of giving it to me on Mothers Date just things came up he could not control. Better later than never. :-)

Thank you all who cheered me up and who gave me a hug and thier time.

Thank you
Smiling Bel :-)

4:49 pm
May 10, 2005


gingerleigh

New Member

posts -1

So nice to see you smile!


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