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Nervous About New Job

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12:00 am
September 2, 2010


Guest

posts -1

Hi
everyone,

I'm starting a new
job next Tuesday. This week I went to meetings and I'm feeling
incredibly overwhelmed. By the end of yesterday's meetings, I was
seeing double-meanings in everything and feeling like this job is
the most scary one ever. I even woke up in the middle of the night
and had a minor panic attack.

For the past few
years, I've been working part time and finishing a PhD. I've really
become used to having my own schedule. I'm worried that I'll miss
my dog, that something terrible will happen to my elderly mom while
I'm working, that I'll be too tired, that I'll get fired, that
terrorists will attack the subway I take, that I won't be able to
handle the commute…on the way home yesterday, I put my head in my
hands and thought to myself, "What have I done to my
life!?"

It's not my dream
job, but I think it's a good one and I didn't accept it lightly
–but to be honest, I'm really anxious and scared. I keep telling
myself to give it a chance, to try at least a week, a month, a
year. Is it normal to feel this way before starting a new job? Does
anyone have any advice? Thanks.

–t.

12:00 am
September 3, 2010


Magnolia23

New Member

posts -1

Good
evening t-

Thanks for your
post on my thoughts. It was really nice to hear. I never thought
about the essence of the play Steel Magnolias, but since you
brought it up, it does give more meaning to my "name" on this
site.

Every job is
overwhelming and it will be hard to get back into someone else
dictating when you have to be in, etc. This is an opportunity.
There must be something that the job offers that you are interested
in. I'm not sure if there is possiblities of being able to
eventually having the freedom like you have been used to or maybe
the experience will just be a great resume builder. My suggestion
is to focus on what you want to get out of the job rather than
looking for all the double-meanings and sabatoging the
opportunity.

I started at my
company on a whim. I moved outt of state and started as a contract
worker in the HR department. They offered me a job and I had HUGE
reservations about everything, but I took it. It has offered me
great opportunities and I have learned how to deal with the
adversities in the workplace that I would normally have shyed away
from. I now work in the accounting department and just finished my
accounting degree. This crazy company and scary beginning has given
me a lot. And to this day, I know it will never be boring at work.
:)

Good luck! If you
have the same inflictions as I (anxiety and social phobias). Take
it one day at a time and remeember to breathe!!

Magnolia

12:00 am
September 3, 2010


Guest

posts -1

Magnolia,

Thank you so much
for your post! I'm staying up late because I have a few days left
while I can, and also, when I go to bed if I don't sleep I get
really anxious. I've never had an anxiety problem before, but I'm
really struggling with it for sure.

Your advice is
amazing and your story inspired me a great deal. I think you've
reminded me to keep an open mind and see what happens, which is
just what I need to hear. Much, much, much appreciated.

–t.

12:00 am
September 3, 2010


formerly

New Member

posts -1

anxiety and social phobias??? you two sound like you are so
together!!! (all of a sudden I can't remmeber how to spell that,
maybe its because its 3am and i am having a drink, lol)

Hugs to both of
you

12:00 am
September 3, 2010


Guest

posts -1

Today
I got more nervous! I had to go to the doctor because I have a cold
and he wanted to make an appointment for me with a specialist about
something. He said it's important to follow up and keep the
appointment. I realized I'd have to ask for a day off and wow, did
I ever get anxious! I'm not at all comfortable asking for a day off
when I'm just starting. At the very least, I'm going to wait a
while to do it.

It reminded me of
how my time is not my own the way it used to be. I felt really down
about that.

When the doctor
saw how down I got, he gave me his card and told me that he's in
the office 3 days a week until 7pm. For some reason, I got a really
strong feeling that he understood exactly what I was feeling and
that he, at least, would still be there the same as always in spite
of this new job. I love my doctor.

Maybe I will ask
him what he thinks about this anxiety I'm having.

Anyway, I'm a bit
down now and a bit tense, but I'm going to try and enjoy the
weekend as much as I can, taking things one moment at a time and
holding out hope that this new job is an opportunity. I wish I
wasn't so stressed about it.

12:00 am
September 3, 2010


Magnolia23

New Member

posts -1

It's
nice that your doctor has given you the time and assurance that you
are not alone.

So is the tasks at
the future job that make you nervous? Is it interacting with
people? Have you been able to narrow that down?

Have you tried
anythiing to relax like meditation or homeopathic medicine? I like
this one called Hyland Calms. When I have acute anxiety, I chew a
couple of them and within 30 minutes I feel better. And it's not
like it's an instant sort of thing it's just that I kept working at
whatever I needed to get done and I notice that I've stopped
feeling so nervous. You can get them at places like Bartell's or
Walgreen's or Whole Foods or Wild Oats.

Good luck on your
weekend. Maybe you'll be able to plan something that can stop your
brain from continually thinking about this. It needs a break!!
:)

12:00 am
September 3, 2010


Magnolia23

New Member

posts -1

formerly-

what a complete
non-sequetor (sp)! Love it!!

Thanks for the
hugs

12:00 am
September 3, 2010


onlyboringontheoutside

New Member

posts -1

Hi! I
just started a new job three weeks ago and I know exactly what
you're talking about. Only I wasn't so nervous before I took it…
I was in a really bad job situation and was trying to escape, so
there was no room for nerves as my misery outweighed any
nervousness I might have otherwise felt.

But, now that I'm
in the new place, and the dysfunction is not so severe, I feel
anxious much of the time there because the industry is so
complicated, there are many terms I don't know, and they hired me
to fill a role that they never had before, so I feel like I'm
constantly making my job up (and I am!) But I know that this
anxiety will pass as I get more familiar with the work, the
industry and the people.

When my brain
starts to race, I actually start focusing on my breathing. Rather
than telling myself to stop being anxious (that never works!) I
instead tell myself to notice my breathing… is it shallow or
deep? Am I breathing slowly or quickly? Is the air cool in my nose
or warm? Are my lungs expanding, or just my upper chest?

I don't attempt to
change anything, just notice what is happening, and I the very act
of noticing seems to help me calm down.

It is normal to be
anxious about making a big life change, like a new job.

Congratulations on
your new position! Even if it turns out not being the right long
term match for you, you'll learn a lot with every moment you spend
there. This position will prepare you for what you're meant to be
in the long run. :-)

12:00 am
September 5, 2010


Guest

posts -1

Thanks as always everyone,

I'm not sure why
this site works the way it does, but it really helps. Hearing from
all of you, and knowing I'm not alone –and the tips and
understanding you all offer– has really helped me to calm
down.

I'm feeling a bit
better. I've been trying hard to enjoy the hours of freedom I have
left. Maybe I'm just mourning the end of a lifestyle and feeling
overwhelmed by the new one that's approaching. I also have spent
time this weekend preparing for the job, which also helps me to
focus. I'll do that a bit more today.

Each of your
comments has been very important to me and I appreciate them very
much. Thank you.

12:00 am
September 7, 2010


Magnolia23

New Member

posts -1

How
was the first day?

12:00 am
September 10, 2010


Guest

posts -1

Hey
Magnolia,

Thanks so much for
asking! The first day was really scary and intimidating, the second
day was better. The commute is TERRIBLE and I was so exhausted
after this week, I think that's going to be one of the big
challenges.

Also, do you know
what happened? Last night I checked my email and there was a job
offer for a position that's PERFECT. I'm a bit confused as to if I
should consider it or just plan to stick out the year. I can't
believe the irony that it should play out this way! Is it a sign?
Or just luck? The other job feels more right, but it's also more
familiar so I haven't given the new one much of a chance yet. So
confusing.

12:00 am
September 12, 2010


Magnolia23

New Member

posts -1

How
strange! I guess you thought it through over the weekend. Did you
have a tough time figuring out if you were going to take the new
offer? I guess one question for you is – you're going back into the
workforce where you don't have control over your schedule. A
perfect job might help you through that acclaimation.

How do you feel
about the new company and the people you'd met? A terrible commute
can not make it a happy experience at a job.

Good luck on week
2!! I'm glad to hear that you made it through your first week
alright. Open mind open heart. Hopefully decisions will come to you
easily this week.

Take
care!

12:00 am
September 2, 2010


Guest

posts -1

Hi
everyone,

I'm starting a new
job next Tuesday. This week I went to meetings and I'm feeling
incredibly overwhelmed. By the end of yesterday's meetings, I was
seeing double-meanings in everything and feeling like this job is
the most scary one ever. I even woke up in the middle of the night
and had a minor panic attack.

For the past few
years, I've been working part time and finishing a PhD. I've really
become used to having my own schedule. I'm worried that I'll miss
my dog, that something terrible will happen to my elderly mom while
I'm working, that I'll be too tired, that I'll get fired, that
terrorists will attack the subway I take, that I won't be able to
handle the commute…on the way home yesterday, I put my head in my
hands and thought to myself, "What have I done to my
life!?"

It's not my dream
job, but I think it's a good one and I didn't accept it lightly
–but to be honest, I'm really anxious and scared. I keep telling
myself to give it a chance, to try at least a week, a month, a
year. Is it normal to feel this way before starting a new job? Does
anyone have any advice? Thanks.

–t.

12:00 am
September 3, 2010


Magnolia23

New Member

posts -1

Good
evening t-

Thanks for your
post on my thoughts. It was really nice to hear. I never thought
about the essence of the play Steel Magnolias, but since you
brought it up, it does give more meaning to my "name" on this
site.

Every job is
overwhelming and it will be hard to get back into someone else
dictating when you have to be in, etc. This is an opportunity.
There must be something that the job offers that you are interested
in. I'm not sure if there is possiblities of being able to
eventually having the freedom like you have been used to or maybe
the experience will just be a great resume builder. My suggestion
is to focus on what you want to get out of the job rather than
looking for all the double-meanings and sabatoging the
opportunity.

I started at my
company on a whim. I moved outt of state and started as a contract
worker in the HR department. They offered me a job and I had HUGE
reservations about everything, but I took it. It has offered me
great opportunities and I have learned how to deal with the
adversities in the workplace that I would normally have shyed away
from. I now work in the accounting department and just finished my
accounting degree. This crazy company and scary beginning has given
me a lot. And to this day, I know it will never be boring at work.
:)

Good luck! If you
have the same inflictions as I (anxiety and social phobias). Take
it one day at a time and remeember to breathe!!

Magnolia

12:00 am
September 3, 2010


Guest

posts -1

Magnolia,

Thank you so much
for your post! I'm staying up late because I have a few days left
while I can, and also, when I go to bed if I don't sleep I get
really anxious. I've never had an anxiety problem before, but I'm
really struggling with it for sure.

Your advice is
amazing and your story inspired me a great deal. I think you've
reminded me to keep an open mind and see what happens, which is
just what I need to hear. Much, much, much appreciated.

–t.

12:00 am
September 3, 2010


formerly

New Member

posts -1

anxiety and social phobias??? you two sound like you are so
together!!! (all of a sudden I can't remmeber how to spell that,
maybe its because its 3am and i am having a drink, lol)

Hugs to both of
you

12:00 am
September 3, 2010


Guest

posts -1

Today
I got more nervous! I had to go to the doctor because I have a cold
and he wanted to make an appointment for me with a specialist about
something. He said it's important to follow up and keep the
appointment. I realized I'd have to ask for a day off and wow, did
I ever get anxious! I'm not at all comfortable asking for a day off
when I'm just starting. At the very least, I'm going to wait a
while to do it.

It reminded me of
how my time is not my own the way it used to be. I felt really down
about that.

When the doctor
saw how down I got, he gave me his card and told me that he's in
the office 3 days a week until 7pm. For some reason, I got a really
strong feeling that he understood exactly what I was feeling and
that he, at least, would still be there the same as always in spite
of this new job. I love my doctor.

Maybe I will ask
him what he thinks about this anxiety I'm having.

Anyway, I'm a bit
down now and a bit tense, but I'm going to try and enjoy the
weekend as much as I can, taking things one moment at a time and
holding out hope that this new job is an opportunity. I wish I
wasn't so stressed about it.

12:00 am
September 3, 2010


Magnolia23

New Member

posts -1

It's
nice that your doctor has given you the time and assurance that you
are not alone.

So is the tasks at
the future job that make you nervous? Is it interacting with
people? Have you been able to narrow that down?

Have you tried
anythiing to relax like meditation or homeopathic medicine? I like
this one called Hyland Calms. When I have acute anxiety, I chew a
couple of them and within 30 minutes I feel better. And it's not
like it's an instant sort of thing it's just that I kept working at
whatever I needed to get done and I notice that I've stopped
feeling so nervous. You can get them at places like Bartell's or
Walgreen's or Whole Foods or Wild Oats.

Good luck on your
weekend. Maybe you'll be able to plan something that can stop your
brain from continually thinking about this. It needs a break!!
:)

12:00 am
September 3, 2010


Magnolia23

New Member

posts -1

formerly-

what a complete
non-sequetor (sp)! Love it!!

Thanks for the
hugs

12:00 am
September 3, 2010


onlyboringontheoutside

New Member

posts -1

Hi! I
just started a new job three weeks ago and I know exactly what
you're talking about. Only I wasn't so nervous before I took it…
I was in a really bad job situation and was trying to escape, so
there was no room for nerves as my misery outweighed any
nervousness I might have otherwise felt.

But, now that I'm
in the new place, and the dysfunction is not so severe, I feel
anxious much of the time there because the industry is so
complicated, there are many terms I don't know, and they hired me
to fill a role that they never had before, so I feel like I'm
constantly making my job up (and I am!) But I know that this
anxiety will pass as I get more familiar with the work, the
industry and the people.

When my brain
starts to race, I actually start focusing on my breathing. Rather
than telling myself to stop being anxious (that never works!) I
instead tell myself to notice my breathing… is it shallow or
deep? Am I breathing slowly or quickly? Is the air cool in my nose
or warm? Are my lungs expanding, or just my upper chest?

I don't attempt to
change anything, just notice what is happening, and I the very act
of noticing seems to help me calm down.

It is normal to be
anxious about making a big life change, like a new job.

Congratulations on
your new position! Even if it turns out not being the right long
term match for you, you'll learn a lot with every moment you spend
there. This position will prepare you for what you're meant to be
in the long run. :-)

12:00 am
September 5, 2010


Guest

posts -1

Thanks as always everyone,

I'm not sure why
this site works the way it does, but it really helps. Hearing from
all of you, and knowing I'm not alone –and the tips and
understanding you all offer– has really helped me to calm
down.

I'm feeling a bit
better. I've been trying hard to enjoy the hours of freedom I have
left. Maybe I'm just mourning the end of a lifestyle and feeling
overwhelmed by the new one that's approaching. I also have spent
time this weekend preparing for the job, which also helps me to
focus. I'll do that a bit more today.

Each of your
comments has been very important to me and I appreciate them very
much. Thank you.

12:00 am
September 7, 2010


Magnolia23

New Member

posts -1

How
was the first day?

12:00 am
September 10, 2010


Guest

posts -1

Hey
Magnolia,

Thanks so much for
asking! The first day was really scary and intimidating, the second
day was better. The commute is TERRIBLE and I was so exhausted
after this week, I think that's going to be one of the big
challenges.

Also, do you know
what happened? Last night I checked my email and there was a job
offer for a position that's PERFECT. I'm a bit confused as to if I
should consider it or just plan to stick out the year. I can't
believe the irony that it should play out this way! Is it a sign?
Or just luck? The other job feels more right, but it's also more
familiar so I haven't given the new one much of a chance yet. So
confusing.

12:00 am
September 12, 2010


Magnolia23

New Member

posts -1

How
strange! I guess you thought it through over the weekend. Did you
have a tough time figuring out if you were going to take the new
offer? I guess one question for you is – you're going back into the
workforce where you don't have control over your schedule. A
perfect job might help you through that acclaimation.

How do you feel
about the new company and the people you'd met? A terrible commute
can not make it a happy experience at a job.

Good luck on week
2!! I'm glad to hear that you made it through your first week
alright. Open mind open heart. Hopefully decisions will come to you
easily this week.

Take
care!


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