Judgemental people

I have a fear of being judged. I think that's it. I'm surrounded by people that do it all too much. My roommate is, my boyfriend is and im trying to hard to be the "perfect" roommate or girlfriend and not to piss them off. I've seen how they've acted before, toward others and dont' want them to feel the same way about me. So I continue to not feel comfortable in my own house (not leaving my stuff in the living room cause she gets mad or cleaning up after myself constantly when she is the messiest person in the world but doesnt think so) it's like Im living with my mom again but she doesnt even act like that. Then there is my boyfriend, he is so judgemental about everyone. I get mad and pick fights with him cause i'm sticking up for other peoples actions but it's no use. He just doesn't see the good in people. My best friend feels the same way toward him-she told me today and I understand completely. He has the aura about him that people value his opinions and we dont want him to think badly of us.