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I Killed My Dog!!

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3:09 pm
June 17, 2007


Amigina

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Oh my God, I didn't really mean to kill our precious dog! I'm crying so hard right now uncontrollably.

At 8:30am today, I took my dog out at our backyard for his "potty". I went upstairs to get myself ready for church. I then went out to church and then came home 2 hours later, I looked out my backyard and noticed he was laying, which I thought he was resting.

To my alarm, he didn't get up and his tongue was blue. He won't walk and still breathing fast. I carried him to the house and gives him water, but he wont drink.

I called vets everywhere and they are closed on Sunday. 15 mins later, he died in front of me while I was talking to my mom.

I couldn't figure out why he died until I looked at him closely: he got sands covered on his mouth. His body felt like a hot oven. It came to my mind that he died from heat. I couldn't believe that I actually killed him by letting him out in my backyard for fresh air and potty.

I never, never forgive myself for that happened. My 10 yrs old son is not home yet from his vacation out of state with grandma, and i haven't told him yet. He's close to his dog. I'm about to die when I tell him soon.

I feel like killing myself for putting my dog to suffer to death.

3:31 pm
June 17, 2007


Rasputin

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You need healing and you also need to grieve & to Forgive yourself hon. You did NOT mean to kill him. You just did a mistake.

Talking to a good counsellor can be soothing to your soul.

{{{Amigina}}}

3:31 pm
June 17, 2007


fantas

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(((Amigina))) I am so sorry to hear this about your pet. I think you may be jumping into conclusion about you killing your dog. It's more likely that your dog died from something he ate than the heat. It would have to be really hot with no wind or any cool breeze for the dog to die of heat. Is it that hot over there? I'd say, wait until the dog is examined and the cause of death determined before you take on the guilt. How old was the dog? When is your son coming back? I will be thinking about you….Keep us posted

3:42 pm
June 17, 2007


Rasputin

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Folks~ As far a I know, Heat CAN kill a pet or a human being. However, to be on the safe side, you would be wise enough to check out with your vet to find out the reason for his death.

In not the heat, then you would hoepfully be relieved.

Wishing you all the best!!!

6:11 pm
June 17, 2007


lovinglife

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Sorry to hear this. I had something like that come close to happening with one of my 'grandpups' last summer…and it was soley related to the heat…and we are NOT 'neglectful' dog owners. Also a few years back an aunt almost lost her beloved dog when she left him in the car for just a short time. Until something like that comes close to happening, or when we hear of others stores we just don't think that a few hours out in the heat could harm our animals. I knew enough from my Aunt's experience regarding the car sitz, but didn't even think about just being outside.

Don't beat yourself up over it…And what was the temp today where you're at?

6:20 pm
June 17, 2007


Amigina

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The temp was 70*/cloudy in the morning and then after 11am, it was 80* with sun on and off. I know it must've been heat exhaustion because when I carried him, his body feel very HOT.

Strange, he was outside longer many time before at the same temperature and never had any problem.

6:25 pm
June 17, 2007


Anonymous

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A hot body could be a fever…

6:43 pm
June 17, 2007


lovinglife

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Maybe it wasn't the heat…my experience is was HOT..like 90, sunny & humid and the dogs were playing hard ALL day. It happend too after the dogs had been outside for like 5-6 hrs????

7:42 pm
June 17, 2007


Amigina

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I know. The worst thing is that I had to lie my neighbors. They live next to me on both side of my house and they saw me buried him in my backyard. They wondered what happened to him and I lied to them by saying that he got bit by snake.

I can't believe I lied to them. I asked myself why did I do that and my answer is because I'm afraid they're going to call the animal control and report me for leaving my dog outside and let heat kill him.

Now I'm feeling guilty for lying and also more guilty for leaving the dog outside. I really, really, didn't do it on purpose. I was going to bring him inside once I got home from church.

It seems like this year is bad luck. March was my grandfather's death. April was my cat's death. May was my mother's first heart attack (she survived) and now my dog died. What's going on, God? Why do I have to suffer?

8:07 pm
June 17, 2007


Rasputin

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I'm sorry hon you have SOOOOOOOOO many ordeals and agonies all at a short time on your plate right now. How painful!!! Here is {{{Warm long Hug}}} to you. I hate it when "it never rains but it pours." Isn't it?

Go inside your house, take a deep breath making sure there is silence, no TV or Radio or any distration and just listen to silence. Then take another deep breath and ask HP to forgive you. You were simply unaware that heat kills pet & even humans. Mind you, I just read about it ONLY a few days ago while reading some medical report.

Please ask HP to forgive you. He will forgivr you right away. He is so generous and quick to forgive. And then Forgive yourself and when I say forgive yourself, I really mean it, be gentle and kind with yourself.

As for lying to your neighbours, you were DISTRSSED and during stress, our personality changes and we do things out of fear and insecurity. Just grant yourself Forgiveness again from HP to extend it generously to yourself.

I will be keeping you in my prayers hon! {{{Amigina}}} Keep us posted or if you feel like talking to soothe the pain you may do so. People here are warm, wise, prayerful and it's such an AWESOME support site!!!

8:34 pm
June 17, 2007


Amigina

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Rasputin – thank you so much for making me understand. Tonight, before I go to bed, I will ask HP for forgiveness and give me strength.

I called my mother, who lives out of state, and she reminded me that it wasn't my fault. My son is with her right now for a week vacation. He cried at first, then fine later on. He will be home this Friday and plan to decorate his grave with flowers and stuff.

I told my husband that we're not going to have a pet for a long time. He felt the same way and feel sad.

Thank you for keeping me in your prayer. I really need it. Thank you.

10:49 pm
June 17, 2007


serenityali

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Rasputin,

You have such wonderful words for other's. Just seem to know what other's need to hear. What a gift you are to us all.

Amigina,

Yes, you didn't intend to hurt your animal. We are all human and stuff happens. But, what a difficult thing to go through. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs

Ali

10:52 pm
June 17, 2007


mamacinnamon

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Aimgina:

Honey, I so feel for you. I lost a dog to heat once. It wasn't that it was that hot outside, but that she overexerted herself. As soon as I noticed I drug her up to the house (125 lbs) and started the hose on her and called the vet, my dad. We helped pump her heart and hosed her down but it was to late. I felt horrible. Realization is that it was not my fault. She wanted out of the pen so bad that she got herself all worked up. Please do remember that you do the best you can and some things are just out of our hands.

11:39 pm
June 17, 2007


northernlights

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So sorry about your pet. It sure doesn't seem like that is nearly hot enough though to cause the death.

12:45 am
June 18, 2007


eve

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Amigina,

it is good of you to feel that strongly for your dog. I'm a vet, and I don't think that a temperature of 80 (Fahrenheit isn't it?) could have killed a healthy dog.

A hot body can also have a lot of other reasons. Maybe a wasp stung him and he had an allergic reaction, or maybe you did't lie at all, and it was a snakebite. Any infection can cause a fever, and some toxins can also be reason for elevated body temperature.

Don't be too harsh on yourself.

8:26 am
June 18, 2007


chelonia mydas

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((((((Amigina))))))

I am so sorry that your dog died yesterday. You have my fullest sympathies and condolances on your lost family member.

There are so many factors to consider here. It may have been the heat. When I worked as a vet tech in the pet emergency clinic I saw more than my share of heat exhaustion and heat stroke pets… but it doesn't sound like it- especially if it was in the 70s and cloudy.

Blue tounge… sounds like there wasn't enough oxygen in his system. Could he have choked on something? Another possibility would be seizure… sometimes a prolonged seizure will cause the body temp to rise considerably.

I have caused the death of some of my pets by accident too. I know how painful and guilt ridden you must feel right now. One thing that has helped me in times like this is to consider the quaility of his entire life. Remember all the good times he had. The fact that you and your family cared for him so much is a lot more than what millions of other pets experience, especially those who are homeless. I am sure he wouldn't want you to focus on just these last moments of his life. He appreicates the wonderful life he had with you and your family.

Another thing that has helped me deal with petloss is to create a memory book for him. It might be something that your son could do as part of the healing process. Mine are filled with stories, photos, thier collar, tags, unstuffed favorite toy etc. I think decorating the grave site is also very healing.

Sending healing thoughts and comforting hugs to you and your family.
Chelonia.

8:37 am
June 18, 2007


risingfromtheashes

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chelonia has good points.

How old was your dog?

a hot body is more a sign of fever and infection…blue tongue being lack of oxygen. Seizures happen for many reasons, and can happen for no reason at all. And many times, even if we are home to intervene, we can't…it just has to run it's course.

It is possible to have heat exhaustion if he ran himself silly. BUT, given the temps you describe, I doubt leaving him outside was the real reason. If you lived in florida or arizona, where temps reach the 100 degree mark and there was no shade, it may have been a factor.

Since you didn't take him to a vet, you won't ever find the answers, so the only thing you can do is pray and ask for forgiveness…and work on forgiving yourself.

3:45 pm
June 18, 2007


glittered when he walked

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whoa..lighten up on the self-guilt…presumptuous to think that you killed him. Firstly, you assume you know how he died, but in fact you don't..I mean you aren't a pathologist are you?

Secondly, even if he did die from heat why are you to blame? 70's and 80's is mild to warm, and perhaps even a little hot, but geez, if a dog can't handle heat in the 80's it's days are numbered anyway.

Lastly and very importantly the dog's death was not a willfull desire of yours you weren't negligent either. It can be hard sometimes to know that an innocent action of ours contributed to a bad or terrible outcome, but unless we were able to predict the future how could we be expected to behave any differently?

take time, grieve, but try to avoid blaming yourself – because you did nothing wrong in my estimation.

5:06 pm
June 18, 2007


2BHAPPY

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I dont really think the dog died of heat exhaustion. I have a dog and we walk miles and miles in about 70 degrees.. I dont think its enough to kill a dog. My dog stays out when I am at work and as long as I get him water and shade is available to him as he goes in and out of the garage..he is fine. The heat has gone up to 90 and he has survived that.

I've also had the guilt of having been the cause of dog's death. I left him with a friend who had a pool and he drowned. My young son was devasted and blamed me for his dog's death. I waited a year and got him another dog and he bonded with him immediately.

 

 

2bHappy

6:09 pm
June 18, 2007


Amigina

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eve: when I went over to get him, his blue tongue sticking out. His body is vegetable and his eyes are open. His breathing rate was very fast. Around his mouth is dirt from the ground. When I carried him, he's like a rag doll. He body was hot. As soon as I put him on the floor away from the sun, he was grasping for his breath. I pour some water over his side mouth to rise off the dirt. He coughed once. During the last 10 minutes, he was grasping for his breath, like cough once every one minute, which I knew he's dying. Strangely, there aren't any bodily fluid that you would normally see after an animal die.

I have noticed that he got some kind of health problem and I was going to take him to the vet this week, but it was too late. I can tell you what I noticed about him during last week. When I walked him, mostly night time, he was breathing hard and fast. When he gets home, he lay on the floor panting like crazy. His breathing doesn't resume normal until 2 hours later. Yes, he is a little overweight. Also, the other time while walking, he make a funny breathing sound just like a person going thru asthma, but it lasted no more than 5 minutes and after that he's fine. I thought maybe it has something to do with his collar/leash because he like pull me hard.

My husband think his heart gave out because of his recent strange health happening. What do you think it is?

6:10 pm
June 18, 2007


Amigina

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serenityali – thank you for keeping me in your prayer. I really appreciate it.

6:12 pm
June 18, 2007


Amigina

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mamacinnamon – thanks for thinking about me. I too am sorry about your dog. I was planning to put wet cloths on him, but it was too late. The Lord do have a reason and I believe he's happier now where he is at.

6:15 pm
June 18, 2007


Amigina

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northernlights – I really don't know. I hope it's not heat related. It could be his heart. My neighbor suggested that I take my dog to our local university for autopsy. I refused because of money and the thought of him getting all cut up. He's in the ground near our garden now.

6:20 pm
June 18, 2007


Amigina

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chelonia mydas – thank you for thinking about me and my family on our pet loss.

Yes, he does have a blue tongue and I know it's a lack of oxygen because he was breathing fast and grasping for breath. He got dirt around his mouth and foam out of his mouth. I really don't know if he choked on something. One thing I do noticed is that his poop is missing from earlier morning before he died. I wonder if he ate it? Does it kill him?

I think it's a wonderful idea to create a memory book. I will wait for my son to come home and I'll ask him if he would like to do the book with me. I still feel so bad for him because they're both really close. They both have same personality. Our dog was great to everybody. He loves to lick people's face.

6:24 pm
June 18, 2007


Amigina

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risingfromtheashes – well, good question about our dog's age. When we adopted him from the no-kill animal shelter, we were told that he's 2 years old, according to previous owner.

Now, ever since we had him, he doesn't act like 2 years old. I believe he's older than that. Also, he got brown fur around his eyes and 3 years later, he's grey around his eyes.

I know I won't get answer ever, but in my mind, I'm searching for the truth. Then I realize there won't be any answer. I need to tell myself to let it go and think peace for him. It's hard, but I'm taking one baby step at a time.


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