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I almost choked to death last night…

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12:39 pm
October 20, 2007


katzndog

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Hi guys,

As you can see from my title, I had a rough time last night. My bf and I were at a dinner dance and I choked on a piece of meat. He saved me with the Heimlich maneuver (sp?). It was a scary close call.

Anyway, I am posting because of the reaction I am having today. One would think I'd wake up and be glad to be alive, which I am, but I can't stop crying. What is wrong with me? Anyone else almost died before? I don't understand and I can't explain it to anyone. I am so confused and upset. I just keep breaking out sobbing. It's a gorgeous day and I can't stop…crap!

Any thoughts? Should I call the doc?

katz

1:05 pm
October 20, 2007


Bitsy

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Maybe it is the phase of the moon. I DIDN"T almost choke last night but I have been crying most of the day. And yes it is a gorgeous autumn day where I am too.

Bitsy

1:12 pm
October 20, 2007


katzndog

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Thanks for your reply, Bitsy.

Geez, I wish I could figure this out. I should be happy. I keep saying that, but I feel wrecked. Maybe I just need some time alone to assimilate what happened. It all went so fast – thank God my bf understood the choking signal with my hand across the neck – and that I had the presence of mind to do it. I couldn't swallow to put the food down or bring it up and I couldn't speak or breathe either. omg – I could have died. It's scarier to me now that it's behind me – wtf?

I don't want to eat anything, but I am starved. I am just afraid. Pray for me that this feeling passes, please. I am usually pretty pulled together, but this has me unglued!

katz

1:18 pm
October 20, 2007


Always Unforgiven

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Katz – I think your reaction is normal. That would scare the heck outta me. You have to eat however so here is an idea, try something smooth, ie; mashed potatos, applesauce, soup….maybe if you get a little something in your stomach you will feel a little better too. Try things you aren't likely to choke on. But please try to eat a little something.

Huggs

1:19 pm
October 20, 2007


Bitsy

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Why don't you make yourself some warm broth and sip that. No chance of choking and the warmth is sure to make your throat feel better. I assume it is a little sore today. I will pray. I am forcing myself to go over to a friends. I don't want to go but she called and said she hadn't done anything with herself todaya and come over and let the girls play. Maybe if I get out of the house I will be better

Bitsy

1:32 pm
October 20, 2007


katzndog

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Thanks guys,

I am trying to pull myself together adn figure out what I will feel safe eating. Your suggestions are good.

My poor bf can't understand why I am so upset and my inability to explain it isn't helping either. He wants to help but I can't even tell him what I need.

I'm going to have to ride this out – crap, I need to lose a few pounds anyway. Trying to look on the bright side here :-)

Bitsy, go over your friend's house. You will probably end up making each other feel better. I have been calling several friends I haven't spoken to for a while – it just seems appropriate to me given the fact that it could have been that I wouldn't be here today. It's almost too big for me to think about. Maybe that's what it is that has me so nuts…

k

1:33 pm
October 20, 2007


fantas

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(((Katz))),
I'm so sorry about your experience! Coming close to your mortality can be frightening at the best of times (bungee jumping :) ). So I imagine that you realized that death could come at any moment. I used to talk about death and dying a lot and my mother told me that it was time for me to get comfortable with the idea of dying by getting myself and my house in order. Most of all the fears that we have masked in all kinds of relationship, are at their core, the death fears. So yesterday, you came close and now that that the shock is over, you realize it. Perhaps you can take some time to process your thoughts about your own mortality and make peace with it…

1:43 pm
October 20, 2007


katzndog

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fantas,

You are so right. I have been afraid to die since the nuns in first grade told me that I would. I remember crying to my parents to please not let it be true for me. I don't have much religion b/c I kinda believe that religion is based on man's innate fear of death. But I never came as close to death as I did last night.

Like I said, it's almost too big to process. I think I need to let it settle. I am pretty happy with my life; I've had a bunch of big, big things to go through and now is my time to enjoy what I have. I have walked through the fire and I am really trying to cherish everything. I never realized what coming this close to death could feel so, so,…????

Can't explain!!!

k

6:06 pm
October 20, 2007


StronginHim77

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katzndog –

Sorry about the delay in responding. I just spotted your request and will do my best to address your response to this traumatic event.

In a nutshell you have come close to death. That is a scary proposition for any of us. Although we all know that death is the doorway through which each of us will pass from this Life to the Next, our minds are simply not geared to face dramatic, near-death experiences without encountering profound reactions to such a life-altering event.

We are programmed to LIVE. This life, this existence…our very being is familiar, desirable and something we will fight to retain. In short, we are all driven by Survival Instincts. We want to live. We do not want to dwell upon our inevitable death, nor is morbid preoccupation with death mentally or emotionally healthy.

However, you have suffered a very traumatic experience. You nearly died. Small wonder that you are very emotional. Small wonder that connecting with those persons who are dear to you has become so important. Small wonder that you are grateful to be alive, yet overwhelmed with inexplicable weeping.

Although I am not a medical professional, I would venture a guess that you may be suffering from "traumatic stress." This is different from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, in that it is of shorter duration and slightly different in both intensity and manifestation. You are very shaken up by nearly dying. Who wouldn't be? That is one of the severest traumas, any of us can endure.

Following such a trauma, we are initially numb — grateful to be alive, grateful that the traumatic event is OVER — but in a sort of temporary, emotional "shock." When the shock wears off, (in my case this happened when I tried to sleep), your subconscious begins to work through the emotional anguish, the horror, the shock of what you experienced. This is part of the recovery process. It is NORMAL.

You may experience sleep disturbances. You may have nightmares, some of them a reenactment of the traumatic event. You may have flashbacks. You may recall the horror, the terror you experienced while choking. You may fear a recurrence of the event…of those terrible feelings of choking. You may fear eating, certainly eating whatever the item was that caused you to choke.

Take it a day at a time. Eat soft, easy foods for awhile. If you have a nightmare, talk to yourself soothingly when you wake up. Tell yourself OUT LOUD that your mind is simply unloading some of the "overload" of terror, packed into your subconscious. And that you are healing. That is why you are crying, too. You are unloading some of the emotional trauma of that event.

Recovering from trauma takes time. If the crying, nightmares, etc. continue beyond 2-3 weeks, I would seek out professional counseling, to help you. It is normal for traumatic stress to take a few weeks to work its way out of our psyches. If it continues beyond a few weeks, it may have morphed into Post Traumatic Stress Disorder which will require treatment. In the meantime, understand that your spirit, your emotions and your mind are in recovery. Be patient and gentle with yourself. If you feel like crying, go ahead. If you feel like being alone, go ahead. If you feel like calling everyone in your address book, go ahead. Do whatever you feel led to do. Rest. Give yourself permission to acknowledge you have suffered a major trauma and that it will take time to recover from it.

If you don't feel some peace returning within a few weeks, seek out professional help and support. As a police chaplain, I see alot of people, suffering from traumatic stress. It is no "cake walk." It is VERY REAL. And it takes time and a gentle, healing environment, as well as the understanding of compassionate friends/family, to recover.

My heart goes out to you. This will pass. Time DOES heal us.

Childbirth is a perfect example of traumatic stress. Many, many women who give birth without pain medication of any sort share that they experience sleep disturbances, nightmares and flashbacks of the intense, agonizing pain of labor for many days, following the actual birth. Eventually, the sleep disturbances, the nightmares and the flashbacks of the labor stop. But they are necessary to help the mind "unload" the trauma of the physical pain and stress which they endured. And they DO recover or no woman would ever undertake a 2nd pregnancy.

: )

Keep posting. Keep talking about it. All of that will help you in the recovery process. You are also probably questioning your spiritual values and beliefs, as well. Since this is SUPPORT THREADS, not LIBERATION BREW THREADS, I cannot address that aspect of your trauma and recovery. But be prepared for normal stirring in that Department of your Life, as well.

My best to you. Hope I have helped.

- Ma Strong

7:03 pm
October 20, 2007


katzndog

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Ma Strong,

I don't know how to thank you. You understand. I knew you would.

I have access to a wonderful counselor should I need her. But right now it just feels wonderful to hear someone acknowlege my "nutsy" reaction to all of this. It's not like a close call in a car, I know that, but I am having trouble describing what it really is. You put some words to it.

And yeah, I haven't eaten yet and I am kind of afraid of the swallow part. But I will do what's best and have something.

As for my spiritual side (borderline Libs side here), I do believe there is a "higher power". It's just that I think my pea brain is too small to grasp the imemnsity of all that it means. I think about it a lot, but just not in the sense of organized religion.

Thank you for your kind words and insight. It helped me a lot. I am not a wordy person so please know that the length of any posts I make do not indicate a depth of my feelings, appreciation, or compasssion.

God bless,
katz

7:59 pm
October 20, 2007


loverbee

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I too had a similar experience when I almost choked to death on a lollipop and my best friend did the heimlick maneuver. I know how you feel but at the same time, i let myself cry and the feelings eventually became gratitude. It was just the initial shock of what happened at first that made me a little emotional.

8:06 pm
October 20, 2007


katzndog

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Thanks loverbee,

Nice to hear that someone has been there. I wouldn't have understood if someone had told me it happened to them…

I almost choked on a butterscotch candy when I was 16…this was way different. I hope your experience of feeling better becomes mine.

Poor bf doesn't get it although he's trying. I am calming down now – maybe I will try to eat.

What a day.

k

8:19 pm
October 20, 2007


armyleo

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Katz,

I had a similar experience years ago. Since then whenever I eat hot liquid foods, especially soups, I feel like I'm going to chock when I swallow, then I burn my mouth, because the only other reaction is to spit it out. (not to cool if i'm out in public)

All I'm saying is my thoat became very sensitive after that. I love soups, so I have to make sure they cool, down, and also…eat slowly.

Take care….

10:08 pm
October 20, 2007


readyforachange

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katz….I think I would have the same reaction you are having. I think such a "close call" would make me incredibly emotional, wondering if I was spending my life doing the right things, or appreciating the people in my life. I think I'd be a bawling mess if I had gone through what you went through.

Don't worry…give yourself time. If it continues, maybe see a counselor. I'll keep you in my prayers. (((katzndog)))

10:32 pm
October 20, 2007


Worried_Dad

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katzndog,

You had a traumatic near-death experience–of course you are shook up and your emotions will be stormy for a while.

It might be good for you to take some time to debrief from this experience with a therapist who specializes in trauma. This kind of experience can open you up to growth and learning in ways that are almost unrelated (or apparently unrelated)to the original trauma. Strike while the iron is hot.

Meanwhile, be gentle with yourself.

3:25 pm
October 21, 2007


katzndog

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Thanks to all who posted here.
I am happy to say that I am doing a lot better today. I am still trying to sort it all out, but I haven't cried and there was only a little shaking this morning. And I finally ate something.

So thanks again and maybe I will post when some of these thoughts I have been having gel enough to put to words. It's deep stuff and someone else here might find value in it.

katz

8:46 am
October 22, 2007


Anonymous

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((Katzndog)) how horrible, I know when my college roommate died from chocking, I was not able to eat for a long time, I still to do this, chew my food very well, just in case…I am sorry this had happened to you, you must of been so scared, I know its one of my biggest fears too! Please be well!

9:11 am
October 22, 2007


robbie2007

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i didnt read all the replies but i can kinda relate.

several years ago, my sister and her husband were in a car accident.

we were both on our way to our older sisters house (separate cars). i left a little ahead of them.

after i was at my older sisters for awhile, it seemed that they should had been there……

then, the dreaded phone call – the police saying there was an accident.

they had been driving in the right lane when a tire blew and the car swerved across to the other side, flipped and landed in a ditch upside down. they are lucky they werent killed. they hardly even got hurt. BUT – it was such a real possibility that they almost died that day.

it TOTALLY effected me (and it wasnt even me). i could not explain it. but i got very depressed. i cried a lot. i really cant explain it, but their near death did something to me for a long time. so i think i do understand.

4:22 pm
October 22, 2007


katzndog

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robbie- thanks so much for responding. I guess it doesn't matter if it happens to us or a loved one. Most traumatic thing that ever happened to me personally,it was. I watched my mother (who had throat cancer and her greatest fear was choking)and my best friend of 35 years die from cancer, but this rattled me almost as much. And I'm OK! Go figure.

survivor – Thanks for responding too. Can you elaborate for me about your roommate? Maybe it's weird I am asking (OK,my life is weird right now), but I would just like to know.

I am better, but I thnk I am afraid to think about it too, too much b/c it's just too big for me to hndle all at once.

katz

4:52 pm
October 22, 2007


katzndog

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Typos due to fake fingernails (for that dinner dance that started all this). Don't ever take a typing test wearing these! lol

5:03 pm
October 22, 2007


horsefly

this is off….be on this forum for years….not just since last year..we can email each other Now? that Nappy is long gone….

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Katz, I keep up with you too. My throat and soul hurt just thinking about it…….Love. horsefly

6:36 am
August 26, 2013


tammc55

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I was almost died from being choked to death by my ex boyfriend. I totally understand hw you feel. Its been over a month & I cant sleep more than an 2 to 3 hours. I have the most vivid dreams that seem so real.I have pressed charges but they haveny picked him to go to jail! Im terrified every night. He has threaten me & my family. Everyone is scard of him & the police told me that they were going to put him in prison cuz it s a felony but I have yet to see any results. Its not like we live in a big town. Population is only 4500. What should I do????

10:07 am
September 16, 2013


!@#$%&*

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Get to a safe place ASAP.

8:58 pm
October 9, 2013


ShiningLight

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Consult a lawyer that can help you file a case against him or you can file for TRO. Ask some assistance from the police officers as well.


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