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Hi wireless:  This is from the archives.  I noticed you're asking the same questions on different threads.  Hope this helps.  sd

angel4U
12-Feb-06

Found this on sober24.com and thought some of you would find it helpful … if anything, I though it might help ease your questioning of yourself.

I found the comparison of an addict to a sociopath (aka – Narsiccist) to be quite interesting … Maybe why some on this site are referring to alcoholics as Narcissists?

as an fyi – The recovering addicts/alcoholics on the sober24 site totally agree with what is said here … and hearing directly from the horse's mouth (in this case, many horses' mouthes) rings loud for me … =)

Love, angel4u

================ What Addicts Do

I'm an addict. And this is what addicts do.

You cannot nor will not change my behavior.

You cannot make me treat you better, let alone with any respect. All I care about, all I think about, is my needs and how to go about fulfilling them. You are a tool to me, something to use.

When I say I love you I am lying through my teeth, because love is impossible for someone in active addiction. I wouldn't be using if I loved myself, and since I don't, I cannot love you.

My feelings are so pushed down and numbed by my drugs that I could be considered a sociopath. I have no empathy for you or anyone else. It doesn't faze me that I hurt you, leave you hungry, lie to you, cheat on you and steal from you.

My behavior cannot and will not change until I make a decision to stop using/drinking and then follow it up with a plan of action.

And until I make that decision, I will hurt you again and again and again.

Stop being surprised.

I am an addict. And that's what addicts do.

Anonymous

Free… Thank you so much..  Did your ex cheat and lie?  My g friend constantly stares at guys, even when she knows I am looking at her.  It is very humiliating.  It is like a disease…  Is it the addiction to beer and pot?  Or just the personality?  She is very kind to me, but I dont trust her now…

hey everybody… Last night I left my girlfriend.  Too much has happened, and the feeling of anxiety, humiliation, stress, and her sarcastic attitude, has done enough to me.  I am now learning about empowerment, the new me.  I need to take care of me, and do what is right… be true to myself.. really true.  To go inside, and know what I really want, and need.  Not living to care for somebody, do for somebody, live for somebody who doesnt care about me, buit to do these things because I care for me…