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Child and Step dad not getting along


1:14 pm
January 16, 2011



posts 49

My brother married a woman that already had a child (daughter).  She is a great kid, we love them all.  My brother is butting heads with his new step-daughter.  I feel for them both!  She feels like he is stepping in and she misses the times it was just her mom and her.  He is trying to tell her that he is there to support her and be a dad to her.


Do you think counseling will help them?  I keep trying to talk to my brother and I tell him to give her time, but he is heartbroken that she shuts him down.

1:42 pm
January 16, 2011



posts 51

It may help them to go to counseling. I went through this with my husband and my older daughters, to this day they refuse to live with him again and they don't like to be around him. I wish I would have taken them when they were younger.

6:40 am
January 17, 2011



posts 49

I don't think you can ever really go wrong by going to counseling. It might do her a lot of good to talk about her feelings in a controlled environment. And then your brother will know what the daughter is thinking and he will be able to help her feel better.

8:19 am
January 17, 2011



posts 19

It seems to me that counselling would be the best way forward – what if he takes the route of letting time work it's magic only to find that the magic doesn't exist in this case?


2:10 am
January 18, 2011



posts 50

I definitely think that they need counseling so that both can comfortably speak their minds.  Step Dad needs to learn to understand her feelings and not be threatened by them, and she still needs to have special time with Mom.

1:58 pm
January 18, 2011



posts 49

I agree with all of this and thank you.  Now I just need to talk my brother and his wife into it.  I hope that his wife will go, she is kind of hesitant and acts like nothing is wrong but it is so wrong.  I think if they don't do something now, they won't get along ever.

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