Will getting my power back make him more angry?

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7:14 pm
October 23, 2011

karenn

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I've just recently learned that alcoholics are master manipulators. It's kinda funny being the controlling person that I am to only find out that he's been controlling me the whole time.

In order not to let him suck me into his constant dramas, I've realized that I need to take my power back, not respond when he's looking for a fight and not comment when he spits out something inflamitory or out-and out a lie to engage me.

Since he's cleary looking for me to engage and I don't, is this only going to pissed him off more. More importantly, will he eventually realize that he can't get a rise out of me and stop.

ALL I need (not!!!) is for him to escalate when he realizes that's I have my shields up.

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K Confused

When life gives you lemons, throw then back….only really hard.

10:36 pm
November 3, 2011

ShiningLight

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Post edited 10:54 pm – November 3, 2011 by ShiningLight

Karenn,

It actually depends on the kind of personality he has. I mean how long have you been together? or do you know him well more than he do?. Usually guys would rather hide what they truly feel especially when it comes to a relationship. They have less expectations than girls and it's rare for them to be surprise on things they don't expect. It's their general act so if you are thinking that he might be more angry if you change your style then I don't think so. Maybe he'll wander for a while for your sudden change of actions but that's not a big deal for him.

Maybe a thought of not reacting to everthing he does might alarm him a bit. Yes, ignore him once in a while cause the more you do that, the more he'll get back to you and the more you move forward to him, the more he'll step back from you. That's the drill.

Hoping for the best Smile

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