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ellehcim 7-Sep-10 I am still here, I pop on once in a while to read but never have a chance to post anything, there is so much drama in my life it is hard to write about it. The autism is taking a huge toll, the marriage is almost over, daughter may have gallbladder issues, step daughter either on drugs or diabetic, I am leaning on diabetic, and I think somethign is wrong with my thyroid even though levels are normal. the only thing going right is my oldest, he has a great job and is getting ready to start back up at school. I dont smile anymore, I know the marriage is over but it is hard to sit here and read how wrong I am for staying, I am working on a plan, in the end our marriage will be better... or it will be over... I cant really say I am leaving and have no where to go. he has no idea how I feel, I try to tell him but he does not think there is a problem. I should go elle

sad sack 8-Sep-10 Hi, Elle, I cannot tell you how good it was to see a post from you. However, I was saddened by your somber tone. Of course, only you can make the decision whether to stay in your marriage or not. We do not live your life nor do we walk in your shoes. I hope we did not offend you in previous posts. I apologize if I wrote anything that upset you. You said you had a plan. Can you share that with us? ... You said you never smile anymore. I noticed your change in mood, on these posts as well. You always came across as having the best sense of humor. I can always depend on you for a chuckle when I read your posts. I don't see that anymore. You said you have no place to go. Is that a factor in your staying in the relationship? I do recall that before you became engaged, you spoke of buying a condo yourself. What happened to that independent woman? I know she is still there inside of you. I wonder why he does not hear you when you try to tell him how you are feeling. How can he NOT see how miserable and frustrated you are? Do you still attend counseling sessions together? If so, perhaps you can address the lack of communication that the two of you are experiencing. For me, whenever I was in an unhappy relationship. I would ask myself, "Is this the way I want to spend the rest of my life?". The answer was always a big fat "NO!!!" and that made it easier for me to make the decision to leave. In terms of your step-daughter, I wonder if she has been to a doctor. A simple test can determine if she is diabetic. ... I am so sorry to hear of your daughter's medical problem. ... That is wonderful news that your eldest son is doing so well. For him to have a great job, especially in these economic times, is a wonderful accomplishment. I know you are very proud of him. I hope it won't be months before we hear from you again. You were so missed here. Shortcake, I was glad to read that your doggy is recovering nicely. ... In terms of your exams, I think it is wonderful that your friends are supporting you and encouraging you to not give up. Would it be possible to take one test at a time, so that you can focus on one aspect of the material? It always sounded as if you were overwhelmed with all the material. Well, whatever you decide, I wish you all the best. ... I am also glad you are pursuing your other dream to open up a business. It was (and still is) a great idea. As for me, my mom and I finally bought a property in North Carolina. At first, I was so excited but now I am a nervous wreck. Did I do the right thing? Will I go down there enough times to make it worth it? Can I ever be comfortable in a place other than NYC? Did I financially sabatoge myself with this added investment? These are all the questions rolling around in my head. I just don't know if I made the right decision. I suppose time will tell. Ladies, have a wonderful week in your respective neck of the woods. Thinking of you all. sad